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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, team DH, and I am a woman.

Someone who can’t set and reach goals because of lack of self-disciple and accountability is a TURN OFF.[/quote]

Then wouldn’t you say that in a kind and mature way vs making snide comments? He sounds like he’s not ready to be in an adult relationship.[/quote]

It’s clearly a pattern as evidenced by the comments “not this again?!”

If OP said “Screw you DH, I think I look great and eat healthy” that would be fine. There is nothing wrong with 5’2” 130.

It sounds like the issue is that DW thinks she should lose weight, claims as much, but then turns around and stuffs her face. 
There is a reason being fat is considered low-class and this is it; it reflects lack of accountability, which is, again, a huge turn off and difficult not to lose respect and develop contempt, which clearly her DH has. [/quote]

I'm going to ignore the ridiculousness of your comment and say this:

one huge problem with his comments is that he is being passive aggressive in a way that maintains plausible deniability. If she stands up for herself, he has left himself a nice escape hatch to a place where he can look innocent and she look oversensitive. If she says what you say would be fine, he will say "woah, I never said you were fat, lighten up, you're trying to make me look like a bad person, I just care about you," etc etc.

OP does need to be a broken record and say "regardless, you still need to stop saying that," but it's so much trickier to do that than if her husband had said "Omg, you are eating like a cow, stop." [/quote]

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