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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. The inlaws were standing outside our bedrooms, in the house waiting for my husband to come and entertain them. My MIL has never got out of bed before 10 am as she's an alcoholic. Even when DH and SIL were kids. I don't care what time someone wakes up, but don't expect me to cook you a big breakfast at 10 am when everyone else ate at 8 and we are on vacation. I do like entertaining as does DH. DH tries to keep family traditions alive and yes, loves hosting. We are builing a big beach house to accomodate family.

My kids gave them the code to the house. My five year old. He was excited. We never told him. He observed it and my older son read it in the book from the owners.

I feel equally bad for my husband's aunt, who has a lovely home, but does not want to host a ton of people either. She actually sent me a text about it.

I did confront my sister in law about inviting guests and my BIL and FIL about being in the house, hanging out when no one is home.

For me, DH, and majority of our family, working out is fun and we are doing it early before the heat. It's 90-100 degrees at the beach.

I would make ham sandwiches for everyone, but I made a specific amount for the kids and the ILs ONLY ate the kids sandwiches, not the sandwiches for adults that had condiments, etc.

I did send a text at the beginning of the week saying I'd make sandwiches everyday, I was not taking orders except for kids who aren't old enough to make their sandwiches. I did take orders for beer, wine and liquor before we went. We had a shared list and we sent a schedule with what we planned on doing (exercise, beach, family time, time alone or sightseeing).

I did have a conversation with my DH as did his uncle, cousins and my sister and BIL. He is a people pleaser and seriously would work himself to death to make others feel appreciated. One of the things I realized going into my marriage was that my DH was impressed by my hosting skills and that I was social. I am not a natural extrovert and it is exhausting. However, it is the only thing my DH asks of me all year, so I think in the future, I will set boundaries and use the script someone else posted. [/quote]

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