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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents sat my fiancé and I down and said they’d pay 30k. They didn’t care what wedding we had or if we saved it all for a new home, but they wanted to be there to witness. They wrote us the check that night and had no strings attached. We spent 40k and had our entire families and friends present.

My in-laws didn’t say anything. Later on they mumbled something about a rehearsal dinner. Dh and I were super broke and could afford much (his car just died). We planned a rehearsal dinner we could afford- $350. And that is the only thing they gave us as a wedding gift. It also came a month after the wedding. Long after we paid off our credit card bill. Still perplexed by the whole thing. My [b]In-laws barely covered their plate at our wedding. [/b]Whatever. They paid 50k and 70k for their daughters weddings a few years later. I never mentioned it but won’t do that to my son. My daughters and son will all get the same amount. [/quote]

This is such an ugly expression.[/quote]

Sons and daughters get the same for a wedding from us:  $0.  Both have had K-12 private school, college, and grad school (upcoming) paid for by us.  We will not contribute to the excesses of the wedding industry.  If they want that, they can pay for it.[/quote]

They did not choose private school, you did.  [/quote]

How greedy can you be? Paying for grad school will set those kids up for success far more than paying for a wedding will ever be. If someone was smart and good with money they would choose paid for grad school over a wedding. You can always scale the wedding appropriately to fit any budget, not so much with school which is a fixed cost.[/quote]

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