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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, at 100k it's an excellent job (at least from my lower middle class vantage point). My colleague with a "mom job" during school hours makes 22k.

I would keep job #1 for the schedule consistency, unless, like the PP, it offers better long-term perks like retirement.[/quote]

Nothing $100K is what most people would consider a mom job.

It’s a family friendly job with little room for upward advancement. Staying there because your stress level is low and the hours are good doesn’t make it a mom job. It just means you’re prioritizing personal life over your career in a high paying field. People do that for all sorts of reasons.[/quote]

It’s a mom job in that it requires another spouse making the same or more for a MC lifestyle [/quote]

That’s still not a Mom job. What the spouse makes has nothing to do with anything. $100K is a lot of money, and very many people raise families quite well on it. I will never understand the posters on here.
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Where the F do you live? Ohio?[/quote]

In a place where $100K doesn’t constitute mad money used to buy Botox and handbags.[/quote]

Are you drunk?  Mortgage on a pretty basic SFH without desperation inducing commute is $70k pre tax dollars.

Whose talking about Botox or handbags?[/quote][/quote]

This is OP. My spouse actually makes less than I do. Our mortgage is about $15k, so your numbers are WAY off, although we live in a rowhouse with a desperation inducing commute (hence the value of telework) so maybe that doesn't meet your standard of middle class?

My calling my job a "mom job" had more to do with it being lower stress, great work-life balance, but with less visibility or clear path for advancement than the other job. But the money is the same either way. I do work in a "mission-driven" field, and tried to apply the criteria I think my friends in more corporate settings would, which is not doing more work without getting more money for it. I have had multiple colleagues I asked for advice tell me it would have been a great opportunity, but that "X work chews people up and spits them out." Multiple people. Same money. 
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I think that’s more a “mommy track”.

And it’s fine. You’ll catch back up when you’re ready, and if that time is now then do it.

Your friends making you feel inadequate are more about themselves than about your situation. Your salary is fine. Your job is fine.

If you want more, you’ll work it out.

Personally, I think it’s easier when they’re older. My kids are signed up for a lot of things, but they are all within schedules we can accommodate. That said, I have no interest is a high stress job so it doesn’t feel like I’m missing something in my career. [/quote]

Thank you. I think it really came down to your last paragraph for me. We could work it out if i really wanted to; we've dealt with longer commutes and less telework before, pre-pandemic. But I guess i don't feel like leaving a good gig for the sake of getting on a track to...other higher stress positions. [/quote]

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