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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Um, your birthday hasn't even occurred yet and you're already catastrophizing that he's not going to do anything and your relationship is doomed. I agree your relationship may be doomed, but it isn't his fault...[/quote]

+1  I gently suggest that you have unresolved baggage from your last relationship.  You had ONE discussion with your BF about it and it's early enough in your relationship that he may not really understand just what you're looking for.  And, as the PP says, you birthday hasn't even happened yet and your already catastrophizing!

Why don't you text him and tell him that having your birthday recognized is really important to you and that you'd like him to make plans?  Why leave any room for guess work on his part?[/quote]

OP: I get what you are saying, but obviously having to tell someone explicitly is not as meaningful as if they did it on their own. I'm not interested in changing anyone, so I figure if he is not the thoughtful type, we probably aren't a good match.[/quote]

I’m not a birthday person at all. Yet, I agree with OP. This matters to you, you made it clear, he made no effort at a time when he should be highly invested. I would wait to see what he does. A poorly executed plan would at least be a good sign. If he does nothing, you have the info you need. You are very right not to try to change someone. [/quote]

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