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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Okay, so there's a thin line between pushing and pushing too hard. Where do you think that line is? I don't think I'm anywhere close to it, at least compared to the parents around me (travel sports parents are the most aggressive when it comes to pushing IME). But how did you realize that you pushed too hard instead of appropriately? Did your own kids tell you? IMO kids are not the best judges of whether our parenting was appropriate or not.

How do you know? Pay attention to your kids. Some kids will tell you they don't want to do it anymore. Other kids will drag their feet and complain. Some kids erupt and get emotional. I was a crier. When I couldn't take it anymore, I burst into tears. I was put in the higher math class in MS and I kept up with the pace until 8th grade. The teacher yelled at me and I burst into tears. I went to the principal who had no issues with me moving down to the regular class. [b]I felt immediate relief and was pretty pissed that I should've just asked to move way before I did[/b].[/quote]

If you kid asked to be put down a grade, would you do it?[/quote]

Yes!!  What's more important? A happy kid who is learning or one who is ahead but miserable and has other issues because of this?  And might grow to hate math, whereas if they were moved back one level they might go on to love it.  Life is not a race.  I know plenty of PHD in science/math and people with MDs that were only slightly above average (not in any AP courses) in HS.  They blossomed later. [/quote]

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Maybe you know a few genius exceptions who did well in STEM after not doing well in college. But most prospective STEM students are weeded out because of a lack of academic preparation in HS. [/quote]

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