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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] He took over the home office you were using to work? NO! Kick is a$$ out of there and back to the office. Make sure he knows, KNOWS that 1) he's impacting your ability to work and contribute to the house (threaten to quit if needed) and 2) That this was your space that he co-opted. Not cool. You're a saint to have put up with it as long as you have. Tell him this weekends project is to move his sh$t out of your office because you need the space. Since he has an office to go to and you don't, this is how it needs to be.

This would be an absolute deal breaker for me. It's one thing if no one has a choice and you make do as best you can, but he does have a choice. I'd die on this hill, and I'm normally a pretty chill person.[/quote]

Yes, you are right. Another reason I'm so bitter. He took over my home office during covid when I was laid off. Moved all his stuff in, and now I work in the kitchen, dining room, bedroom if the kids are home, etc etc. I'm on the phone/zooms during the day, so this isn't exactly an easy shift. He has a freaking office to go to and I don't. All of this is boiling in me. I celebrate when he has rare occasional travel, a round of golf in the afternoon, etc. [/quote]

The obvious step is that you need to move him out of the home office. Reclaim the space. With a door lock. Explain that you need the uninterrupted time.

He will either figure out that he prefers to return to the office or make another space, but it’s not your problem. “Now that you have your office back I realized it’s not working for me to have scattered spaces. I am going to move back into the office, and you can decide whether you’ll use your work office or another space in the house.”[/quote]

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