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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you have what is called obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. Read up on it. [/quote]

Yes, my exH was like that. he would storm from a ticking clock on the wall or a water dripping from the faucet (not my faults at all). Also he was lining objects perfectly in line, placing paintings of same painter on walls etc. He cheated on me eventually, and she's way more messy than me so I keep thinking how they will get along. He didn't even open the pool for 2 years in a row since divorce in his house, as I was the one taking care of the pool and he never noticed. I was cleaning it daily (as ordered by him) from leaves. I had no more time to wash and fold his laundry every day. He was impossible to live with, extremely demanding and it cost me my career to take care of all his obsessive needs. Our son is autistic.

I now live separately from him, and my house is neat but I am not obsessed with cleaning every day. I could leave a few dishes in a sink and then load dishwasher overnight; I don't vacuum daily and clean counters when there is food on them, not otherwise. Few people have time for multiple tiny things that OP is talking about.

OP I hope your girlfriend runs as fast as she can from you because your habits are not standard. [/quote]

I was the PP who suggested OCPD. My own DH has banned me from making tofu at home because I was making such a mess and "don't clean up as I go". While it's easy to point fingers at him, I have my own OCPD traits as well e.g. not allowing DH to have a pet because I don't want to ever have to clean up after it, not allowing shoes in the house, getting annoyed that the laundromat stuck safety pins through my work dresses and now there are holes through the fabric etc. [/quote]

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