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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We constantly fight over this stuff.  My husband was out of town and when he got back, did I mention how much I did?  Of course not. But if he watches the kids in the morning so I can do house work, he mentions it several times throughout the day. His job is laundry - but the clean clothes sit in piles for weeks.  The only thing that kind of helped is giving him a few defined jobs, and when he doesn’t do it, we have a sit down to remind him of his agreement.[/quote]

Which one of you dictates that the other must do this list of tasks. Of course he’s on the defensive. Good God, if you think it’s your role to think of stuff for your spouse to do, divorce.[/quote]

Yeah, all these B——-s just got off the plain after the honeymoon and handed DH a chore wheel.  🙄

Look, we all started with the expectation that everyone would just contribute to the running of the house in a reasonable manner and then gradually our husbands failed to hold up their end.  I have some friends whose husbands just gradually stopped doing all the stuff they previously did, then I have other friends who are in my boat where our husbands opted in to bigger life responsibilities (home ownership, kids, etc.) but assumed that they would have the same amount of free time as when we were DINKs in a small apartment.  When someone is at the point where she is ready to break up her marriage over the chores, it is not because she is too picky about the level of cleanliness.[/quote]

All of this. I still remember the time that my husband incinerated popcorn in the microwave while I was on a trip. It still smelled awful throughout the house when I came home. He was like, "I wiped it out. I don't know what to do." I sent him a link with steps to take to clean the microwave if you burn popcorn in it. When I asked him about it a couple of more days later he very defensively said, "I'm not going to do all that." You can guess who did.

I honestly wish I had divorced when my kids were little, moved back to my hometown or home state and either[b] found a guy that wanted a partnership or one that prioritized a budget for a housekeeper.
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I would fully support my daughters not marrying. [/quote]

This.  It has nothing to do with SAH or WOH parenting.  Household chores are essential and someone needs to do this. Perfectly fine if you don't want to lift a finger to do this, then you should pay up to get it outsourced.

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