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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whether you can get alimony depends upon the laws of the state where you reside. We don't know which state and it's unlikely that any of the posters answering your question is a practicing divorce attorney in the state where you live. So, don't follow the advice. That said...

[b]In some states, it is not unheard of for the judge to allow the primary caretaker to remain in the home until the youngest child is 18, with the non-custodial parent having to pay part of all of the mortgage.[/b] When the youngest child is 18, the house is sold and the proceeds are distributed. In some cases, if one parent paid the entire mortgage, that parent would get the house at that point. This is really state specific.

Mediation  is fine as long as you know EXACTLY what the law is before you enter into negotiations. In many states, there is a formula for child support and alimony. Know how much you are entitled to before entering mediation. Don't let your spouse know what you actually want before mediating. Be careful about telling the mediator too much too.  For example, if you are entitled to stay in your home under your state law but don't really care about moving, don't say that upfront. Let your H and HIS attorney think you really want to. Then he's more likely to offer other things like more child support, alimony, paying for medical expenses, etc. to get you to move.

Also, your kids are young, but [b]check out how much, if anything, their father will be required to pay towards college under your state law[/b]. That too varies enormously.  [/quote]

Virginia divorce here. My ex was ordered to pay the mortgage until the divorce was final which was roughly about a year. Also, Virginia child support stops at 18, nothing paid towards college by law.[/quote]

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