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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Shit yeah.  
If I had kids earlier, they'd be done with college by now.  I might actually live long enough to see and help out with grandchildren if I had kids earlier.
If I had kids earlier, I might have been more able to help my aging parents instead of being literally the only one caring for pre-school/K small kids.[/quote]

Interesting perspective. I am in my early 40s with two kids in Pre-K and 1st. The only empty nesters I know who are my age either got knocked up in high school or college, and most dropped out; life was hard for them and for their kids. I wouldn't trade places with them. [/quote]

I had mine later in life but I know many college graduates who had their kids in their 20s and have had really great lives. Still married, empty nesters, quite happy. Their kids are happy. [/quote]

You know lots of 41-year-old happily married empty nesters who are also college graduates and whose kids have graduated college too? BS.[/quote]

[b]Where did I say they’re 41? I didn’t. [/b]

I’m 55 and didn’t grow up here. You realize not everywhere is like DC, right?[/quote]

You responded to the early 40s poster with an irrelevant post. I know lots of people who had kids in their 20s and are empty nesters now in their 50s too, but that's not what the post was about.[/quote]
[b]The OP is asking about the experiences of people in their 40s and 50s. She’s asking about regrets. The PP is barely in her 40s and has young kids, but it was okay for her to answer, right? Having had kids around 40 and being in my 50s, is it okay with you if I share my perspective, or no?[/b]

I know we all like to pretend our DC experience is universal, but it’s not. I know we all like to assume our kids will have a smooth path to college and independent adulthood, but they don’t. I felt very differently about this at 41 with a toddler than I do now. But by all means, shut me down so the OP doesn’t hear a different perspective. [/quote]

Sure, you're allowed to comment on the thread. When you want to make a new post that is unrelated to another, be sure not to use the quote function. Nobody's trying to shut you down because you're an older mom who doesn't like being an older mom.[/quote]

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