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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. I’m a childhood sexual assault survivor who became significantly obese in high school. I also have ADHD, something that wasn’t diagnosed until adulthood. I am highly successful in my career but always struggled with weight. I binge dieted, lost 50 lbs, gained it back, etc. I didn’t hide and I traveled the world, but I was fat.

It wasn’t until I started doing significant and deep therapy, along with immersing myself in the body acceptance movement, that I was able to lose weight and keep it off. It took years of work. I had to accept that I gained the weight in part to protect myself and to accept that weight gain isn’t the moral marker that the fatphobes on DCUM make it out to be. There is a huge correlation between super morbid obesity and childhood sexual abuse, and learning about that and finding a compassionate and fat-positive therapist was key. I also worked with an endocrinologist and a doctor who specialized in obesity. It was an extremely expensive and time-consuming process.

But I’m fit and have been for years. I work out almost every day. I will not as part of my healing focus on actual weight, but I wear a women’s medium or large depending on cut as opposed to 2x. I have low blood pressure and excellent labs. I’m happy and have a good marriage (to a man who has stood by me throughout).

You cannot control cravings by willpower alone in a society that makes unhealthy food so easily available. To say that is to tell people to fail. But you can, with a focus on healing, make small changes that might eventually cause weight loss. I started with walking. But when I say it took years, I mean literally years. And, candidly, a lot of money that wasn’t covered by insurance.

Personally I do not think we will make any progress whatsoever on solving the obesity epidemic until we drop the willpower narrative entirely from any discussion of obesity. Obesity is a metabolic condition that is influenced by complex biological and mental processes. The idea that “willpower” can fix obesity is laughably naive. [/quote]

This is incredibly helpful. Thank you for sharing. [/quote]

You are welcome. Best of luck. [/quote]

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