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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why didn't you just take a break and keep the kids separate for awhile before blowing it all up? They are 6 and by nature and poor social skills. Kids don't get along one month and are best friends the next at this age.[/quote]

This is not sound advice. Six is plenty old enough to know. Do not put your child with this other child to get re-victimized. [/quote]

"Re-vitimized"? Good Lord, do you know any 6 year olds?[/quote]

You must be a mom of a bully. [/quote]

+1[/quote]

You must be moms of toddlers. Do you know how many times my kids have come home crying about so-and-so excluding them and not playing with them and then the next week they forget all about it and are best friends? Happens all the time. Or my kids didn't get along with some kids who were too physical, or bossy, and then a few months later all is forgotten and everyone is friends. You people need to chill and quit labelling young children as monsters when they are all still just figuring things out.  Maybe OP and the kid aren't meant to be friends, or maybe they will work it out. It's kindergarten, after the summer it can all change.[/quote]

I think it’s weird the OP seems to think the very over the top sounding physical issues are equivalent to the pretty typical mean girl behavior of exclusion which does happen quite a lot. It’s not great but it’s definitely not on the same level as punching and leaving bruises. Regardless it’s ok to be sad but is this really a big change? Did the girls play together fine before this? It sounds like a big escalation and I guess it would make me curious and slightly worried about the other girl. And I say that as a parent of  a DD who has had some behavioral issues we work with multiple professionals on. [/quote]

The girl was always kind of mean but the physical stuff happened out of the blue last week. It makes me wonder how long this has been going on.  Otherwise the usual girl stuff was par of course but I found nothing too alarming. [/quote]

It just sounds like a huge escalation and not typical unless she’s been doing more minor hitting and pushing that you don’t know about. What does your daughter say about what happened? There’s no excuse for that kind of violence at all but I’d want some details about what if anything your daughter did that made this girl upset. Her mom isn’t doing her any favors pretending this is normal but I’d really want to know what happened in the one incident that is really atypical.[/quote]

PP - not to imply that they should not be separated, it does sound justified. Just I’d really want to understand.[/quote]

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