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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Great to see all the self hating Indians on here..well played OP, bringing them out. And of course your American born DH thinks his mom is a nut. It’s one of the most cliched dynamics around. US born Indian child thinks their parent who does nice things like bring home cooked food to a party is crazy. I’m Indian born and 30, for the posters who want to reply “hey OP’s MIL!”[/quote]

I’ll just state the obvious, but, we’re not in India. Having the self-awareness and emotional maturity to look around you and see what others are doing is a sign of being an adult. Ask your adult children what they need/want. Grow as a human. Bringing food, and being pushy about it, is just symptomatic of a MIL that doesn’t respect boundaries…and that transcends cultures. Go ahead and gaslight OP, and me, with the racist word. It’s just way to justify rude behavior.[/quote]

Nice try acting the victim while using the hallmark phrase of racists everywhere, “we’re not in [foreign country in question] anymore,” implying that you better act like an American, otherwise you’re not “grown” as a human. How dehumanizing to immigrants who may have different traditions and mindsets, none of which are inferior to Americans’. [/quote]

Or just follow what your adult children ask in their home. You can keep going on as you are, but we see you have no actual argument or reason MIL cannot listen to her adult child and his spouse. [/quote]

Neither you nor OP have any actual reason or argument as to why what the MIL did is actually a problem, other than “I’m American and my norms are right. Yours are wrong.” [/quote]

Good luck to you and your relationships.  Look at you posting as though it's okay to do whatever you want in someone else's home.[/quote]

You still haven’t articulated why the lady’s actions were actually harmful other than “it’s not American,” so you can take your passive aggressive ”well wishes” and pi$$ right off. [/quote]

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