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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would be worried that she is going to give him bad news like that she has cancer or something. My first thought would not be that it had something to do with me.[/quote]

That's a good point and could be true but like I said after all these years and time together I know she considers me a part of his family and I don't think she would leave me out as her FDIL of something like that because I'm sure she knows my fiance would tell me and she would know news like this would effect me as well given that we are close.  I highly doubt that's the case. IF we werent close I would be more inclined to agree.  [/quote]

You’re overthinking it. Sometimes parents just need to talk to their kid one-on-one.

Related, does your fiancé truly never get to see his mom by himself? You make it sound like it’s a really big deal that he would see his mom on his own.[/quote]

Interesting choice of word by saying does fiance "get " to see his mom by himself.  He isn't a child.  At the end of the day if he chooses to see his mom alone or not that is on him as a grown man not on me.  But anyways yes he does see his mom alone but not very often because naturally we visit family together usually.  Because shocker my fiance wants his future wife with him when visiting family and friends.

What does regular time mean to you?  Is that once a week or once a month?  With people's busy lives sometimes people don't even get to see their own spouse that much so yeah I would be pissed if my MIL asked to see my husband alone once every single week because that would be excluding me a lot of the time and expecting my husband to leave me one night every week yeah that would be a problem.  
I think a lot of people are missing the point that it isn't about the fact that he is seeing his mom alone as I have stated in a response above that he has seen his mom alone before it's more that his mom has never outright requested it and there was no context given.  I thought his mom and I were close and she saw me as family.[/quote]

Are you 12?  Or 19?  Seriously, please tell me you can’t be this obtuse.

When you have your own son someday, can you imagine ever wanting to spend time with him, just you two?  If I thought that my son getting married meant that I would never have regular time just me & him together, that would be REALLY bleak.

And no, if I had cancer I would certainly not want to tell him and his wife together.  That doesn’t mean I don’t consider her family.  There are different degrees of family.  You two aren’t sewn together for the rest of your Lives,

It’s not about you.

Though with this level of immaturity and insecurity, maybe it is?[/quote][/quote]

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