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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Give him a break, he can't say he loves you for the first time right in front of his friend who was teasing him about it.[/quote]

It's not the fact that he deflected the comment. It's how he did it. There would have been other ways of doing it without outright denying that he was in love. He could have just laughed and thrown a barb back at his friend, or said something generic like "don't you have anything better to do than bother other people who are happy?" Going out of your way to deny any strong feelings is a pretty extreme move, unwarranted by the friend's stupid/casual remark.[/quote]

Did you read what OP said about him being insecure? This is exactly what an insecure person would do/say. [/quote]

Obviously he's insecure. That's really hard to deal with in a guy.[/quote]

I think the bigger problem is that they [i]both [/i]seem really insecure.  He handled it very awkwardly (but in character, now that we have backstory on him) and OP went from top-of-the-world to DCUM based on one off comment.  The whole interaction seems very mid-twenties, not early thirties.[/quote]

I don’t see how OP overreacted. She recognizes that she’s being overly sensitive, even though she has a right to be, but simply wants to communicate with her partner.[b] If you are confused about something in your relationship you talk about it and hopefully move on from it. This is how mature adults handle issues.[/b][/quote]

I couldn't agree more.  But that's not what she's doing.  She's challenging everyone who says this isn't a big deal and getting spun up by everyone who says it is, and most importantly: talking to random weirdos on the internet and not to him.  You can tell by the way that she's interacting on this thread that she's getting something out of the idea that this was A Most Grievous Offense By Which She Was Humiliated.  Which, fine.  Dump a guy for being awkward.  But her thirst to feel slighted is not necessarily fair and it's certainly not mature.  Based on her backstory, neither his he.  They're either the worst pair in history or soul mates.[/quote]

PP,

Huh? I’ve only seen OP respond 2 or 3 times when we’ve asked for more info on their relationship and she mentioned his family dynamic and previous insecurity. I’m pretty sure you’re confusing others who have replied with OP’s responses….[/quote]

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