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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound like a jerk, but I do agree with the sentiment that this job is not a great idea.

Poor pay, plus poor hours.  I wouldn’t want to always have my weekend tied up with work when I have a young child (even if she does happen to not like you).  With her hours, it means no date nights, no weekend trips, even no all day trips.  Seems like a huge PIA to me.  It seems like what she really wants/needs is to get away from you and the child for a while and this is the only avenue she has found. [/quote]

She does not work every evening. They have 5 nights they could choose from for date night. [/quote]

Having one parent pick up a job that requires various hours Friday, Saturday and Sunday, every weekend, as their new hobby would be a no for me.  Weekends are family time.  Her schedule limits what they can do as a family and really puts a damper on weekend plans.  If my DH took an every weekend hobby job I’d have a problem with it.  She can find a weeknight job or hobby.  [/quote]

This seems rigid.  Why can’t family time be Tuesday, and OP shift some of his work to Saturday?[/quote]

Having weekends available for family time isn’t rigid- it is normal.  Week night family isn’t the same.  Sometimes 
parents work late, kids have afternoon activities, and young kids early bedtimes.  Having an every weekend job isn’t reasonable IMO when it is purely optional and the income not needed.  She is a SAHM and should easily be able to work some time in during the week for her mental health- either on evenings when DH is home, preschool, or a babysitter.  [/quote]

Why can’t Tuesday during the day be family time?  Did OP even look into working some of the same hours as his spouse?  
Maybe his employer would welcome having someone in the office every Saturday to be available for emergencies.  Maybe he has a lot of flexibility in his schedule and could shift some of his work to Saturday.

Their child is two.  He doesn’t have school or after school activities.  There is no reason to decree that the day that his wife is working “family day,” and then be passed that she is missing it.    [/quote]

Are you suggesting OP just take every Tuesday off of work? WTH.  That isn’t reasonable [/quote]

Why?  I don’t know what he does for a living.  It might be perfectly reasonable.  If he is a pediatrician, he can have a Saturday clinic and not schedule anyone on Tuesdays.  If he is in IT, he can be available on Saturdays, but take Tuesdays off.   Or maybe with her working, they can work it out in their budget that he can just cut his hours to 80%.

At any rate, someone who is working full time at a job that they have been working at for years is going to have a lot more say over his schedule than a part time receptionist.  [/quote]

Not really...and most companies operate M-F[/quote]

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