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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here bumping...

DH went on a work trip and I just found hidden alcohol. It's a half empty pint of peppermint schnapps. Guess that makes perfect sense to mask the smell as toothpaste or his minty body wash.[/quote]

He will be drinking on the work trip, OP. Probably much more even than at home as he'll be alone. It could also end up with him drunk in front of clients or colleagues. And that could lead to very real problems keeping his job. I beg you, be ready to have the talk with him when he comes home. You can't nail him on drinking while away, because you won't have evidence, but you can present that schanpps bottle along with the time of the nearest AA meeting (to which you drive him -- get a sitter if you must , this is urgent-- and you wait for him to come out and drive him home), and the time of your first appointment with a therapist specializing in addiction. Use your insurance company list of therapists as a starting point to find one, but you can find AA immediately.

He is on a road to losing his job, possibly his life, wrecking the marriage you described earlier as "solid," maybe endangering your life or your kids' lives when he's behind the wheel. Or when he's alone with the kids and is unable to react quickly to a potential fall or other hazard at home, because he's drunk. I'm so sorry. Please get the help of AA, Al-Anon, therapy, even inpatient if needed. He has to want to seek help, though. But he won't do that until he knows you know and he can no longer gaslight or lie to you. [/quote]

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