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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quot=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand where you’re coming from OP. I’m married to an Indian American and when I decided to stay home for a few years his parents expected me to be available to face time them multiple times a day because “that’s your job now”. As you could guess, we don’t have the best relationship now 🥴[/quote]

Most Indian parents don't want their daughters to become SAHMs. They fear the in-laws will treat her with total disrespect and expect her to be available for any reason because her job has es to serve the family.[/quote]

+2 this has been my experience as well, unfortunately. [/quote]

I am white married to an Indian. We live in Ashburn. There are a lot of Indian immigrant stay-at-home moms here! Some stay home because they want to, and others don't have a work visa. I have made some great friends. My husband plays cricket in the warmer months. It's been an excellent way for him to make friends. Our children have been exposed to south Asians. You could look into joining a south asian mommy group. I understand a little about the in-law craziness. My in-laws have been great, but [b]I've heard some crazy stories[/b]. The craziest, meanest ones have been from Pakistan. If my in-laws were like that, I wouldn't answer my phone. 
Focus on what you need to be happy,y, stress-free, best mom. My husband puts pressure on me to do too much. I think it is cultural for sure. I've learned to tell him to STFU and hire help. Good luck, OP! Hang in there. There are good and bad days. [/quote]

What stories have you heard?[/quote]

A lot stories of husbands and moms telling husbands NOT to help with housework. They have this mentality that the daughter-in-law should suffer as much as they did, I guess? There are some crazy stories in my husband's family, too, of the bride's parents demanding money, large wedding, and refusing to have the bride join the husband's family unless these things are done. Note this is AFTER the marriage has taken place. I don't know much because my husband's family lives abroad. When we visit, I feel suffocated. No one leaves me alone. Knock on my door even when I try to get a moment to myself. If my in-laws were constantly calling me, that would drive me nuts. My mother in law never calls me. [/quote]

Isn't dowry demanded by the bridegroom's family in India?[/quote]

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