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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just imagine him having sex with his wife. Legs over her head, doggy style snd the two of them falling asleep cradled in each other’s arms while he tells her how much he loves her and she’s the best thing that ever happened to him, stroking her cheek gently..

Imagine them at dinner earlier tonight, dressed to the nines, both turning heads as they walked in, feeding each other bites of their Michelin star plates.  They look like movie stars together.  You were so far below his level.

He gets up the next morning make her a latte and brings it to her in bed as he crawls back under the covers and puts his mouth between her legs.

Yeah you were a midlife bang that he hates himself for, almost losing everything he truly cared about.  She never betrayed him and is too classy to ever be somebody’s side piece, a dirty nasty liar he could never trust.  He has too much respect for her and never felt he was good enough.

You are delusional and aren’t close to the woman she is.  You don’t know his mother’s name, his first love or what he is truly afraid of.  Do you know the name of his best friend and how he died at 29?  His deepest fears?  The name of his childhood pet or the failure he felt when he couldn’t help his dad get off the bottle?

He didn’t confess any truths to you.  You were somebody he needed to escape himself when he felt like sh@t and thought he wasn’t worthy.  Thankfully he woke up, ended it and is making up for it every single day.

You are still delusional, living a lie and insecure.

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Damn, this is a crazy imagination.

I cheated on my wife, and while I wasn't completely miserable in my marriage, it was nothing like this. I suspect if men had this reality with their wives, the infidelity rate would be very low. Men cheat mostly because they are sexually neglected.[/quote]

Try again. Men cheat mostly because...

Use research to answer this time.[/quote]

Research says....men cheat because they are not feeling loved or appreciated at home.

Although to be fair, men's love language is overwhelmingly sex. So it's a bit disingenuous to say men cheating has nothing to do with sex, because men feel loved when having sex with their wives.[/quote]

Huh yet you cite zero sources and add your subjective opinion. According to Scientific American journal, “An analysis revealed eight key reasons: anger, self-esteem, lack of love, low commitment, need for variety, neglect, sexual desire, and situation or circumstance.”

Truth is -there is a variety of reasons and plenty of men cheat who also fulfilled sexually at home because they are cake eaters and need the validation because they have low self esteem. Take note that PP did not say it had nothing to do with sex, rather research backs up that’s not the sole reason for cheating. [/quote]

Their decision to cheat comes from the desire to experience the love and affection they expect to receive from their wife, but has faded over time. After years of enduring those unmet needs, infidelity became a way for them to be doted on while not having to give up a partnership that still means the world to them.
https://www.marieclaire.com.au/why-do-men-cheat

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Those are just the first two articles in a Google search. They all connect men feeling unloved, or not appreciated with the underlying reason being sex at home fading over time.

I am not excusing male behavior or saying there aren't men who have amazing sex at home at still cheat for variety. Your view that it never has to do with sex is hard to square with everything out there[/quote]

Fir baby it’s not the partnership it’s the lifestyle. They’re living well and don’t want to lose what they invested in. [/quote]

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