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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow. Helicopter parent alert. [/quote]

+1 I feel so embarrassed for parents like this.[/quote]

Please don't be embarrased for my - I promise you I am not. I would kindly ask you to STFU and get off your judgmental and self important high horse

I think parents like you are naive or can be borderline neglectful. There is a happy medium you know? Just because you want to help your 17/18 year old with some advice and guidance to successfully navigate one of the biggest changes to their lives to set themselves up for success does NOT mean you are helicoptering. It means your a decent parent. No one is saying make the calls for them, or help them with their school work. Its about helping them stay relatively health, safe, and on track.

I find people like you who throw out the helicoptering thing any time a parent is actually interested and supportive of their kids ridiculous. I am not a helicopter parent. I believe in giving kids the freedom to fail - when it's not fatal. I don't plan on helicoptering my college student, but I do plan on helping them figure out how to get healthcare for themselves if they get sick and need it (did your college freshman handle ALL of their healthcare needs and insurance as a teenager before they left for college? :roll: ). Or how to make my life easier by having a plan in place if I need to quickly send money, or ya know, inquire as to what kind of plan they have to map out classes so I'm not paying for 5+ years of college.

Okay - I feel better getting that off my chest. LOL. Flame away!

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NP here. You're just not doing yourself any favors with this defense. You are doing too much for your college freshmen. They should have figured out their own housing and registered for their own classes. They obviously have advisors and it's their job to go to them--not their mommy--if they are unsure. My college freshman, with severe ADHD and executive function deficit, did all this himself. The night he woke up with acute apendicitis, he got himself to the hospical, and didn't call me until the morning--about 7 hours later to say, basically, "they seem to feel pretty strongly I should have it removed, I feel like I just wanted to check with you and dad to make sure that's the right thing to do before I consent to it," Two weeks later got himself to his post-surgical follow-up appointment. And you are concerned that your kids won't know what to do if they have a cold. So yes, the whole premise of the thread is flameworthy--sorry. I do think I may show it to my kids, who complain that I am too hands on. If only they knew.[/quote]

Your kid had Major surgery and you didn’t go to the hospital to check on him?!!! Wtf!!!! That’s not giving independence that’s friggen neglect! My kid is across the country and if she needed an appendectomy I’d be on the first plane out the next day. Wow. I’m glad I’m not your kid. [/quote]

Wow...calm down. At what point in my post did I say I didn't go? When he called me, 7 after hours after getting himself admitted, seeing a doctor, and getting diagnosed, I actually did go to see him (although it was hours before I could because they kept him in the ER until pre-op and would not allow visitors because of COVID). Then I sat in the waiting room for 2 hours while he was in surgery and then you know what I did? Because he was in so much pain? I spent the night in his room. And by the way, even if I hadn't, it wouldn't be "neglect." He's an adult. Would it be unfeeling, cold? Sure, but not neglect. But again, I went, cared for him, and spent the night with him in his hospital room. Was it because he needed his mommy to deal with his  life? No, he takes care of himself. It's because he needed somebody to be compassionate and care for him. Also, I would never let a loved one stay alone in a hospital room if I can help it. Calm TF down. [/quote]

Ah well, but you didn’t paint the picture that way did you PP. In fact you left that whole middle part out of your original post with the aim of portraying the situation as if your son handled it all himself. And now called out on it, you’re backpedaling!! A lie of omission for the purposes for bragging and trying to look superior to others is still well, a lie. Do you regularly airbrush stories of your life to make you look good?[/quote]

Oh run along. Sonny needs to Facetime you about his grade in Psych 101.[/quote]

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