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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The amount of angst cause by dishes and laundry is astounding. It doesn’t matter. In 10 years it won’t matter. Change the things you can and accept those you cannot. Focus on what matters and your life will improve 10 fold. [/quote]

But like, even if it doesn't matter in 10 years, do you suggest that people just let the laundry pile up and wear dirty clothes and put dishes in the sink until it is full... ???

I get what you are saying to a point, but it isn't actually a solution.[/quote]

There is a place between perfect and squalor. Sometimes good enough is good enough. Wipe down the counters once a day. Put dishes away at the end of the day. Sort the kids laundry into baskets and let them dress themselves out of the baskets. These are not things important enough to make you unhappy and ruin your relationship. [/quote]

Good enough is the standard. Also, limiting your phone use really helps. I do a little cleaning each day, maybe 30 minutes beyond dishes and other daily tasks and my house is looking pretty good![b] And kids have to have chores. We can’t do it all[/b]. [/quote]

Yes. My son was 8.5 at the start of the pandemic. We had some really rocky times then and from Dec 2021 until last summer. In the midst of all of that, we dialed up expectations related to chores.  The work had to be done each day before he got any screen time.  I got very tired of being the reminder/enforcer in the house (which is a whole other issue), but now that he is almost 11, it is finally starting to pay off. He just does it; doesn’t argue; doesn’t need many reminders. Maybe it’s maturity. Maybe it’s us getting into a better groove. Who knows. But, I say this to encourage others who are struggling. Be consistent and stick with it.

Btw — his jobs are unload the dishwasher, take out the trash and recycling, tidy his room, carry laundry to laundry room and sort it, swifter the kitchen and bar area, and tidy his bathroom the weeks that the cleaners don’t come. He also has to put away his laundry. And my favorite category — other tasks as assigned. He has activities three nights/week and these chores don’t take more than 10/15 minutes per day, but they are a big help over the course of a week.

We also have a cleaning crew come every two weeks. It is a sanity saver. When they didn’t come during the height of the pandemic, our house was a wreck. [/quote]

1 kid?[/quote]

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