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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am really sorry that so many kids are hurting right now because of the college rejections.   It hurts, I know.  Especially when your child has worked hard and seems to be well qualified for these schools by objective measures, like GPA and test scores. My DC is one of these kids, having just been rejected or WL from seven schools over the last two weeks (and rejected ED in December).

The fact is, many schools are simply flooded with applications from well qualified students and cannot accept them all.  So they make tough decisions and make decisions based on very quick reviews of applications, many of which are basically indistinguishable from one another.  In some cases, they may look "unfair" because we see other kids in our orbit getting into the same school that our kid gets rejected from and we can't imagine what that kid had that ours didn't.

So, to make ourselves and our kids feel better, there is so much blaming--blaming other "lesser" URM kids, "lesser" public schools with grade inflation, "yield protection",  etc.....and it is not fair to the kids who did get in.  And, to be honest, it's not good for our own kids--it only feeds grievances. Let's teach them graciousness and grit. It will serve everyone better.

[b]So, to all the kids out there who were accepted to Rice, Hopkins, Wash U, Rice, Northeastern, CMU, Northwestern: Congratulations to you! You deserve it! You are worthy of that acceptance. You earned it.[/b]

[/quote]The kids who weren't accepted deserved it, too.  But when you're drawing names out of a hat, "deserve" and "worthy" aren't the right descriptors.  I don't have a dog in this race, I am merely an observer.  People like you, though, are idiots if you think that the kids who were accepted deserved it more than the kids who weren't.  It's a crap shoot right now.  Acknowledge it and move on.[/quote]

OP never said the kids who were accepted deserved it MORE than those who weren't accepted...or that those who didn't get in did not deserve it.  She was just showing grace to those who got in (presumably to the schools her DC was rejected from) by saying they earned it and were worthy of it. It does not mean that her kid was not also deserving and worthy of those schools.  My guess is that they were and, if they follow their mom's advice to be gracious and not show bitterness when things don't go your way, they will be well served.[/quote]

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