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[quote=Anonymous]So, if your spouse is uncooperative and doesn't know the issues, that means you have to do more of the homework, not less.  And you have to figure out a better communications style rather than adversarial.  Once you decided to become less adversarial and took a more holistic view of the entire situation, your husband seemed more willing to listen and compromise.  If your husband is easy to communicate with, it's easier.  If he's harder to communicate with, that means you have to put more effort into effective communications, not less.  As the courts say the objective is the best interests of the child.  Not who is right and who is wrong.  So the entire way the problem was phrased in the op was reflective of a misunderstanding of it.

OP has stated that this conflict with her spouse has been on going for a long time.  OP,  maybe now would be a good time for you to take a long hard look in a mirror and think about your overall approach to communications and problem solving in a marriage.  You probably use approaches out of habit that you picked up from your own parents as a child but never consciously thought about is this really the best way of handling these kinds of things.  Or if your profession is a lawyer or something with a lot of conflict and arguing, you may be bringing approaches to these discussions that are fine in a professional context but less than optimal for resolving family stuff.[/quote]

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