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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a great article on how to teach your child to have no competitive spirit and be happy with what meager rations they are given.

Kids this bright are quite aware of who is getting into the schools they and their friends have been targeting for 2 or 3 years and they can see the reverse discrimination and unfairness at play. They are not 2 year olds looking for moms reaction on this.

Maybe responsible parenting is acknowledging that while top schools are a stretch for everyone, it IS unfair that qualities outside of their control and baseless to achievement are getting prioritized over what should matter and thus impacting your child's results.  It's not fair and there is nothing we can do.

But that they will still go to a good school and because they are brilliant they will make the best of it. The world will level out once they get past the insanity/bubble of college admissions because in the real world results matter more than checking a demographic box and brilliance and hard work will pay off, regardless of liberal agendas.

Companies focus on things that matter and so while this phase of life will illustrate to them the unfairness of racism of discrimination, the good news is that they will be past this BS in four years.

That is the article I would write.[/quote]

Holy entitled brat!  Maybe they just picked up on these kids messed up superiority complexes and said no thanks.[/quote]

That you get "entitled brat" out of the perspective that performance should be rewarded without regard to skin color, religion or socioeconomic status is exactly why we have a problem.[/quote]

Performance is subjective.   Your superstar is great but so are others.  Your think the "performance" of your genius is superior and others have a different opinion.[/quote]

Different poster but the fact is that my kids (white) need to score higher by over 100 points (closer to 200) on SAT and have a higher gpa to get into the same schools as their friends who are black.  It’s simply the truth.  May be good or bad for out society overall, but it’s true and my kids know it (shouldn’t they?!?).  So they need to work harder, perform better and have a more appealing set of extracurricular activities.  Other groups have had to do that at other times for admissions and now it is the turn for my kids.  It’s important that they know.  Our son’s closest friend at a top private will be a full pay black boy.  So when my kid asks if he can spend the summer in the same way that his friend does, my answer is no. Because you need to have a higher standard for the same result. And, sadly, your black friend will likely face discrimination later in life and he will need to be a higher standard. I don’t think it’s a problem to give kids, really young adults, the information they need to navigate this.[/quote]

What is your child being forced to do this summer?  Work for money?  Something academic? Learn something or accomplish something?

If your point is that your kid wants to sit around making tik toks by the pool but is instead doing something else for the purpose of college admissions, then he or she is the one gaming the system.   Plenty of kids want to do something interesting with their summers and your imposter is apparently only pretending to be one of them.[/quote]

Different groups faced different forms of discrimination, or being held to a significantly higher standard, and different context. My white kids need to do substantially better on testing, and an academic stand extracurriculars, to be admitted to the same colleges as underrepresented minorities. They also need to do better than people who can admission due to legacy preference or sports preference. Those are simple facts. My kids will also face less discrimination in the workplace.  I am not comparing my children, who have many benefits and privileges in the world, to anyone who is far less fortunate in terms of opportunities or socioeconomics, that would be crazy. Looking at privileged white kids and privileged underrepresented minorities, though, my kids simply have to do better for the same results. And their Asian friends have to do far better very unfortunately.  it’s not personal, it’s just the system and where we are at this stage and trying to calibrate under representation issues and frankly some tremendous disparity in the treatment of Asian-Americans as well. Kids should know this. They should not think that they will get into the same school with the same scores as their African-American classmates. It’s just not true. And unfortunately, they should have a little empathy when their Asian-American friends are frustrated at needing to do even better in school for the same results.[/quote]

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