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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You all do realize that many kids contract HSV1 from daycare, preschool, playgrounds, Kindergarten, etc, right?  Are you requesting testing of every child with whom yours might come into contact?
I get not wanting to have cold sores, but some of this discussion is ridiculous.[/quote]

Well I hope those kids aren't kissing mine.[/quote]

They probably are!

And those kids likely have no idea that they have an infectious virus. This is also why referring to it as an STD is not quite right. While it can be transmitted via sex, that's not the usual way it's transmitted. Most people get it through either kissing (including a kiss on the cheek or even a hug where you press your faces together) or by touching your face or mouth after touching something that has the virus on it (cup, hand towel, etc.).

You should assume that anyone you kiss *could* have it and make your choices accordingly. Since it can be transmitted even if someone doesn't have an outbreak, and since some people who have it never or rarely get outbreaks, and since you can get it at any age very easily, it really is up to the individual as to how conservative they want to be. Most people literally never get tested for it, and testing for HSV-1 is very rarely done because it is totally harmless (inconvenient if you get a cold sore, but otherwise harmless) and not really a priority. If that freaks you out, then you should be very choosy about who you kiss. That's up to you. You can't expect people who don't even know they have this virus to disclose it to you (and given how judgmental and obsessive people on this thread are, I also don't think you can expect even someone who knows to disclose because they probably rightly fear being shunned).

Maybe the people who are extremely upset and fearful of HSV-1 should get together with the people who think we should all wear masks forever to get rid of the common cold and have some kind of very chaste, socially distanced party where they talk about how gross and sick the rest of us are? Would that help?[/quote]

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