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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Question - do you think there was something off about that generation of women to have produced such rotten mothers? Do you think there are an equal number of terrible mothers in the current generations? (X and Millennials)?[/quote]

I'm so glad I found this thread and to learn that I'm not alone.
OK, so I've thought about this question quite a bit - as in, I've had a few decades since moving out of the house to reflect on my parents.

I think the majority of women born in the 1940s -60s had very narrow life choices.  While pathways were opening up for women, it was usually the well-to-do that had access.  There were many a woman of questionable ability who were funneled into the role that have been assigned to women for millenia - marriage & children.  That is to say, there was probably a millenia of women who were terrible mothers as well. 
And from what I've seen as a parent, there are still terrible mothers in formation today.
This kind of cruelty and immaturity has no generational barrier.  The mothers who indulge in that today have a lot more life choices so their kids are probably going to be in an even worse of a complex about their childhood.

To all the women whose mothers treat them as emotional punching bags, who despite knowing mom's temperamental deficits nevertheless find themselves feeling depressed and teary every single holiday season, terribly sad for their children who have no grandparent love, find yourself constantly thinking about what the hell the motivations were for what they said and did years and years ago - it's not you, it's her.  I know, I know, it still hurts but can you imagine how much more it hurts to live life as THAT mother?  The self-denial, the weird reality they live in, the insecurity, the constant spinning of stories.  So exhausting and deluded. If you try to understand how they experience things, it hurts a little less - I hope.[/quote]

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