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Of course they were, and they always did.   They "deserved it, damn it!"   And it didn't matter what happened to their kids while they were gone.   If you really want to know more about that trip to Belgium...They didn't have family that could come stay with us, and they didn't want to send us to a family member's house because we'd miss school.

There was a family in our neighborhood, my little brother was friends with their son.   My mom used to always say that Caroline (the mom) was a neglectful mother--the little girl in the family was about 3-4 years old and she'd be outside playing in the snow in nothing but a t shirt--no shoes, no pants, just a t shirt!
So of course, when my parents needed to find a babysitter  for us while they were in Belgium for a week--who could they ask for a recommendation?   Why, Caroline--the "neglectful mother!"  And Caroline had someone in mind--a 22 year old woman named Beth.
I think my mom met Beth once before they left.   The first night Beth took us into  Boston (about a 45 minute drive away) on a school night.  The circus was in town and she was able to get free tickets from her boss at work--nice, right?  On the way home she stopped at a bar (she said her mom was in the bar and she needed to talk to her mom.)   My brother's and I waited in the parking lot of the bar for what seemed like at least an hour (by now it was about 10 pm on a school night.)
So that was the first night.

The subsequent nights were even worse.   Beth had three boyfriends.   Each one of them took turns spending the night at our house.   Some nights Beth's best friend and her boyfriend spent the night (11 year old me came down to the family room in my pjs one morning to see a naked couple on the sofa bed) too.
Lots of late night partying and alcohol every night, strange men spending the night, I saw my first R rated move that weekend...

But what else could my parents do?   They wanted to go to Belgium, and they "deserved it, damn it!"

You'd think they would have learned their lesson, but no.  A few years later they went to Hawaii (yes, they "deserved it, damn it") and this time hired another compete stranger to watch their children while they were overseas.   This time it was an older lady, that was completely against 14 year old me being out past 9 pm on a Friday night.  Ok...but the problem was--I wasn't just out having fun with friends--this was for my school marching band/football game.   The game went until 10 pm at night and then I had to change and get a ride home.  My parents knew this was mandatory (marching band was counted in place of PE in my school--so it was an actual graded class and I would be marked down for not attending) but didn't communicate it with the babysitter--and the babysitter didn't care when I told her.   When I returned home that night (directly from the game) she had dead bolted the door so I couldn't get in (yes, she was well aware I did not have a key to that lock!)  She wanted me to face "consequences" for being out past the curfew she made up!   
She was just a mean nasty abusive woman who screamed at my younger brother until he cried when he didn't eat his vegetables.  It was really awful.   But my parents wanted to go to Hawaii and they "deserved it, damn it!" so us kids just had to deal with it.

But yeah, of course they were allowed to go on vacation without us--those are the two big overseas trips they took without us--but there were many others that were shorter or over school breaks so they were able to send us to a family member's house instead of hiring random strangers.   We never went on family vacations that were not tied to a work conference for my dad or a family wedding.[/quote]

I get your life sucked and your parents suck but you are coming across entitled and bitter. Clearly you don’t have great parents. Frame it that way, over “my parents didn’t invite me in vacation”. [/quote]

Wow, what's the matter with you?  Does attacking someone with uncaring parents make you feel good?  Do you identify with the awful mother?[/quote]

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