Reply to Step children and family rules

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Step children and family rules"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah that’s pretty terrible.  I have a 15 year old DSS and am very lucky that my parents treat him totally equally (down to putting the same amount in his 529 as for their biological grandkids).

I would hold firm.[/quote]

OP here,

My parents are wealthy and they have money set up for college for my kids only. I am only child and they do spoil my kids rotten but I just will love all kids to be included on a holiday trip. It's weird to separate them. My husband parents are really nice and fair with all kids. Ex-wife parents live in a different state. I want all my kids to have nice vacation, money for college and normal childhood experiences. My parents are 65 and 68 years old, excellent health and retired.[/quote]

The difference between your parents and your husband’s parents is that biologically all the children are your husband’s. If the step children have biological maternal grandparents, then they already have two sets of grandparents. Your children also have two sets. I would not expect your parents to provide college money and vacations for your step children who already have their own grandparents. [/quote]

And if OP had adopted kids, they wouldn’t be “biologically related either,” so in your world, they would deserve to be treated as second class citizens. Nice.[/quote]

We adopted and I have step kids.  They have different sets of families, understand it and some intermix and some don't.  OP is greedy.  This is what she wants.  If she wants this, she should get another job to pay for it instead of expecting her parents to financially support four kids.  There is a big difference between two kids and four.  With two kids, they need one hotel room, one rental car, etc.

Your husband's parents are grandparents to all these kids.

Your husband's kids have two parents and two sets of grandparents.  You are overstepping.

[b]These kids need you to back off and let them have a week of spring break that is centered around their Dad.  You go do your thing or each of you take a kid and let them have alone time with their Dad.  That is far more valuable than a trip to Europe they will barely remember[/b].  [/quote]

I wish OP would read this. She’s sabotaging her kid’s relationship with their grandparents AND getting in the way of her stepkids relationship with their dad. What a mess. What a huge mess. All because she wants her parents to fund her lifestyle? SMH

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics