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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here to clarify.
Subject line should say son. I also have a daughter but she is going to baptism. Baptism was scheduled months ago so my parents can purchase flights. Plus, baptisms are a big deal in my culture and it is traditional to host a luncheon afterwards so we had to book restaurant and send invitations. This was all scheduled well before we knew about tournament.
Son is 15. Husband is of the same faith as me and his entire family will be there. [/quote]

You had to have known the tournament was a possibility and that there was a chance your husband and son would not be available.   You played the odds and lost.  I get the logistics - I have a kid in travel sports and I had baptisms for all of my kids. But you prioritized your baby and parents over your son and husband and now are upset that they called you on it. And clearly when you realized there was a conflict instead of looking into the possibility of changing the dates, you dug in your heels decided to continue prioritizing baby and parents.

I would be upset to miss my baby’s baptism. But I’m not so sure I’d make a different choice. Either way I’m going to have to pick which kid to support.

And even a few weeks out you can still change it. Your parents can change their arrangements and you can move the date. 
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OP here. The son we are baptizing is also my husband's son and just as important. He was involved with choosing the date. The fact that you are making this all about me is just plain weird. 
Also, all kids are biological kids.
No way to change the date this late in the game. Read my earlier comment. Church reserved and booked solid. Restaurant reserved. Guests are attending. Flights booked. [/quote]

Your husband and son's priorities are so wildly off that it's hard not to believe you arent a troll.  Of course, the entire family attends the baby's baptism.  And I say this as a non-Christian, non-religious person.[/quote]

I'm also a non-Christian, non-religious person, and honestly I would say it's no big deal for the older son and DH to miss the christening (because obviously I don't care about such things myself). If this were just a church ceremony, no big deal IMO. (Obviously OP's parents and the clergyperson can disagree, as is their right.)

What I would not tolerate is my DH skipping out on a big family party that he and I are hosting. Nope.[/quote]

A christening is a Big Deal. It's akin to a wedding in the eyes of the church. It's a really meaningful and important part of Christian life. To me this would be like my husband missing my kids wedding. [/quote]

I get that it is a big deal for some people, including OP's parents/culture. It's obviously not a big deal for OP's DH. I'm not even sure it's that big a deal for OP (she's talking mostly about how upset her parents are).

So, as I said, if I were having a christening because it was a Big Deal for my family, but not for me particularly and not for DH, then I can imagine excusing my DH/son from attending.[/quote]

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