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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, op, it seems that you care a lot more about what this other mom thinks of you then about your sons perspective. If I’m understanding correctly, it happened at school, during lunch, through the school email. Your son’s friend is by your accounts “impulsive”.

Have you asked your son why he sent it to the principal? Have you considered that maybe, and of course I don’t know, his friends impulsivity may be consistent and overbearing, and highly unpleasant. Maybe your son wants to spend less time with this friend at least for now?  Maybe this impulsivity, well perhaps understandable to adults understanding the diagnosis, is constant, pressing and annoying.  Or maybe your son had recently received the message from school administration to reach out if anyone uses media inappropriately and took it literally? He’s 11. This seems like a good time to try to understand what’s going on in his head on this issue and do use as a teaching opportunity based on that.  really, though, read through your postings above and simply count the times you showed empathy or concern for your son and the number of times you showed empathy and concern for another child’s mother.  It’s not even clear to me if you spoke with your son, let alone ask him if he was out of you that his communication to the principal should be addressed at home.  and have you even reached out to the other mom to let her know what her son had said to yours over lunch? Or are you in reality and just not going to do anything about it because it’s inconvenient for you and you’d be embarrassed?  to be clear, I am not saying that this was a big deal in terms of her sons contact, or that both boys may not engage in similar acts, but it sounds like your son reached out to an authority figure, provided essentially a complaint. You then shut it down and said you would handle, and at least from what you’ve written it doesn’t seem that you’ve actually handled at all. Other than to be relieved you don’t need to have a conversation with a principal [/quote]

My son actually chooses to hang out with this friend over some other friends, so I don’t think he is suffering in this friendship. He has a tendency to be mean, which we are working on. So he is not the one to complain! He now finally knows what it feels like then a friend talks like that. He keeps telling me (when I reproach him for similar acts - not that bad but in the same line - that it’s just “friendly banter”. Well, get a taste of your own medicine! [/quote]

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