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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because it’s 2022 and we’re done blaming women for the transgressions of men. What an affair partner does is not good, but they’re not the one breaking their vows, taking away their spouses informed consent, and harming their children. [/quote]

The H (or W) and the AP are BOTH betrayers and both are betraying the married spouse and kids.  Riding shotgun counts.[/quote]

Sorry no. The AP has no loyalty to the spouse who most likely they have never met. The wronged spouse was betrayed by one person, their spouse.

This thread is so funny. So many people trying redirect fault. Whatever helps you get through the day. [/quote]

It's not binary. It can be the fault of both cheating spouse *and* the affair partner. Even if it's more the fault of the cheating spouse, that doesn't mean the affair partner is somehow not a piece of shit who is hurting someone. [/quote]

I guess we need to agree to disagree sweetie. If my spouse were to have an affair, the I would not feel harmed by their affair partner or feel the AP was at fault in anyway. It would be 100% the fault of my cheating spouse.[/quote]

+1. It has happened to me.[b] Do I think the OW is a selfish a**hole? Yes. She suuuucks. [/b]But the anger I feel at her does not compare to the pain and trauma of being betrayed by my ex-husband. He’s the one that lied to me, over and over again. He’s the one that came into our marital bed and exposed me to whatever diseases she could have had while I trusted him. He’s the one who destroyed our marriage and hurt our children for life. [/quote]

I think people are agreeing and not understanding one another on this thread.

People are always angry at their spouse.  They hold them accountable.  It doesn't mean that they like the OW/OM.  They likely think they are a disgusting piece of pathetic, crap.  And, based on the OW responses on this thread of thinking of nobody but themselves, pretty accurate.

But the one whose feet are held to the fire is the spouse.  She/he is not important.  They would have and could have been literally anyone.  Nothing special there.
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