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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I would say dating and marrying someone sixteen years older can be wonderful. My MIL and FIL have a big age spread, and my BIL and his husband have an even larger one. Both sets have been together for many, many decades. It helps if the older one takes excellent care of his health and exercises all the time (in the couples I mentioned, the older ones work out daily). So far the younger ones haven't become caretakers but they do have nurturing personalities and do a lot of the home and financial management.

The one areas I've seen where the age spread does become a problem is when people are at different stages of life regarding retirement and what to do with their leisure time. If your older spouse wants to keep working or finds ways to be engaged in the world and leave the house on a daily basis, it will be fine. But if they retire 16 years before you and spend most of their time at home waiting for your return, it's rough. Also rough when the older person no longer wants to travel and expects the younger to just stay housebound. I'm seeing it happen with my ILs and it's difficult. She's been traveling solo for about five years but he has become increasingly afraid of the world as he has gotten older (he's willing to do some trips, thankfully).

If your relationship progresses and you talk about marriage, talk to him about how he envisions retirement and travel in his old age. If he has money for care taking and a nice retirement, you should be ok in that regard.

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