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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get it. Some things don't go according to plan and it sucks. You're automatically considered high risk and the treatment is different. But having a healthy baby in arm is worth it.[/quote]

This is not true. I wasn’t even considered big risk at 41. I did get some extra monitoring in the 3rd tri, and induced at 39 weeks based on OB recommendations, but that was a very conservative practice concerned about specific age related risks. It was not a high risk pregnancy.

And none of that was done with my first pregnancy at 38. [/quote]

You may be unaware of it, but you were considered a big risk. 
 [/quote]

Massive eye roll. Please. A "big risk". You get extra monitoring and genetic testing. Teens with substance abuse are also a big risk. Multiples are a big risk. Obese people are a big risk. Its all relative. [/quote]

Deny and eye roll all you want. It is a big risk and obvious you don’t work in obstetrics. [/quote]

DP who had my first at 37 and second at 41.  Increased risk, yes.  But "big risk" is overstating it.  You make it sound like these pregnancies are more likely to fail than not, and that isn't the case.
I had several appointments with an MFM with my 2nd that I didn't have with my first, out of an abundance of caution.  But my pregnancy and delivery were both uneventful, and DD2 is perfectly healthy.
You know, having children well into late 30s and 40s isn't some new, rare thing.  My mother comes from a large family.  My grandmother had her first at 21 and last of 8 kids at 42.  Her own mother also had children from her 20s to her 40s.  Prior to the widespread use of birth control, this was common.[/quote]

Your argument doesn’t fly then if you saw an MFM to be cautious. You downplayed prior generations having babies later in life but then you saw a specialist because of the risk that you claim is not a risk. [/quote]
The hospital-based CNMs that handled both of my deliveries recommended seeing an MFM for a consult and NT scan at the end of my first trimester and 2 growth scans in my 3rd trimester.  I took their advice.
I didn’t say there was no risk.  In fact, I specifically said that there is increased risk.  Just not the doom and gloom you make it out to be.[/quote]

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