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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand risks go up after 35, but I’m always confused by this idea that getting pregnant after 35 is terrible. Isn’t there a reason we don’t go into menopause until ~50? And it’s not like everyone throughout history pre-birth control stopped having sex at 35. Plenty of people throughout history have been born to mothers over 35 but the world wasn’t overrun with people with Down Syndrome, etc.[/quote]

Menopause is not a one day it appears thing. It starts in your 40’s and egg quality is absolutely diminishing and that will not change no matter if women continue to have babies at this age. You may not like it, but you cannot stop it and deny that it is happening. No one said younger women don’t have babies with birth defects. However, it is a fact that advanced age increases this and many of this age do have Downs children and I see many miscarriages. Much higher in older woman and very, very common. You just don’t hear about it and many aren’t even aware that it happened to them. [/quote]

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Even so, we all know that.  It does not help OP or other mothers to tear them down.  Life happens. Some people meet the right person in their 20s, and some meet that person at 40. There are many journeys, and you have sound like an insensitive jerk not only for pointing it out, but for pointing it out on a thread when OP is already depressed.

It's really not that hard to be kind.  If you cannot, you simply do not respond.  Eye roll and scroll.  Do not pile on.  [/quote]

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