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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  To clarify, I’m not divorced and have never been married.  I wouldn’t describe myself as commitment-phobic; I just had some financial goals that I wanted to meet before getting bogged down in a relationship.  Now that I have done that, I am definitely open to committed, long-term relationships, so I’m not leading anyone on.  The couple of casual relationships I’ve had have been fun too.

While I’m not opposed to a long-term relationship, I think it’s very unlikely that I would want to cohabitate and almost certain that I would not want to marry.  I just value my space and my privacy too much.

Lastly, I’m not sure why everyone is making it seem like cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc. are no big deal.  Isn’t this the same DCUM where everyone is stressed out and complaining about housework and all the “mental loads?“ (Granted, I don’t have kids but the other tasks are not insignificant.)  Other than some work issues, I have zero stress in my life, and I love it that way.[/quote]

Omg.  "Getting bogged down" is a funny way to describe a relationship.  If it's the right one for you, it *helps* you achieve your goals.  What you say is exactly what people who are afraid of commitment think.

Yes, DCUM is stressed out and complaining about the mental load.  And one reason for that is men who have no domestic skills and no motivation to learn how to manage a household.  Like you!  You aren't actually taking care of yourself, you're leaning on your parents to cook and clean and provide your preferred home environment.  Are you expecting a woman would do that for you too?[/quote]

Also I’ve complained about the mental load and dirty dishes on here bc it’s a safe space to come and vent for a minute and go back to my life.  I assume that when other people vent for a minute about dishes the take away isn’t intended to be and there are no other good things making partnership and families worth the hassle of dishes in the sink.  I really hope, Op, you are being flippant and aren’t giving up on knowing what it’s like to have some really great family moments bc some people complain about housework. [/quote]

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