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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Gaslighting?[/quote]

Don’t think so. Spouse sincerely believes in this approach.  [b]Spouse is economist by training.[/b] [/quote]

This is your answer. [/quote]

DP. Nah, that's not an answer. OP, does your spouse try to claim that it's the economist background that makes them this way? If so: Bogus. An excuse. Many an economist can be a human being at home and treat a relationship as one of love and not quid pro quo transactions. Ask me how I know....I'm married to one.

The fact that your spouse supposedly had therapy after the first marriage failed, yet still thinks that this level of transaction in every interaction is normal, well, that's a sure sign that the therapy was pretty crappy.

The fact that your spouse wants you to exchange specific sex acts for vacations you want? That's awful. And sounds very controlling. So ask yourself: Are there other ways in which spouse tries to control things you do, say, people you see? Sit down and consider it. I'll bet you can find other controlling behaviors besides all the transactional expectations for chores and "chores" in bed. What does your spouse do if you say no to the transactions?[/quote]

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