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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you spend any time browsing TiKTok you know this is a brewing crisis. Kids are co-opting therapy-speak to blame parents for the normal rough patches of adolescence and young adulthood. Parents they don't agree with are labeled "toxic" or narcissists. Normal trials of growing up are labeled "trauma," and in the interest of "boundaries" kids are cutting family off completely.

I'm all in favor of young people being aware of mental health issues, but it's being twisted into blaming others for anything that doesn't go right in their life. Anyone with a kid between the ages of 10 and 20 should be prepared for it to happen. [/quote]

This.

Massively F’d up. No respect. Under-developed brains and hormone changes and they’re told by trendy schools and internet influencers to cut off their parents if they don’t get what they want. [/quote]

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Will gen Z truly grow out of this?  What type of parents will they be?  I don't mean to generalize all gen Z BC they are not all like this.  I asked daughter once if she'd like kids one day.  She said she'd never put her trauma on an innocent human being.  Apparently it's a little selfish to have kids.  She then said she'll end the trauma by not continuing the line..  [/quote]

She sounds like my DD who had Lyme disease in high school, which changed her personality practically overnight. She went to yoga and some therapy, and eventually we had a neuropsych which found that she had some brain deficits, likely caused by Lyme. Weird, but that's what happened. When she went to college, she got a lot better, although she had accommodations due to her brain injury from Lyme. She got some great suggestions from the neuropsych people who told her not to spend more than 30 minutes at a time doing schoolwork, to use a white noise machine, to work in the morning when her head was clear, to allow plenty of time between classes to prep and do homework, and to allow rest and relaxation time at night. She followed this schedule and did very well in college. But we had a rough time with her after Lyme hit in high school. She said some very damaging, horrible things to us, blaming us for whatever. Now she doesn't even remember saying those things. [/quote]

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