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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ex and I never loved each other. It happens. We married due to expectations and in his words: I “looked good on paper.” I had a lot of family pressure to marry.[/quote]

This far more common than people want to acknowledge.[/quote]

I am the PP…I agree and wish people understood this still happens quite a lot [/quote]

For both people? Save everyone the money and time. It’s all in your head that this is what they wanted. It’s what you wanted. [/quote]

I would take this excuse if you had an arranged marriage in your teens but 25+ adults signing a long term legal document are responsible for their actions, blaming it in others doesn't absolve you from owing your dishonesty and failure.[/quote]

Look--we both had age pressure to marry. You don't get it. My mom literally said "you should just get married anyway" when I wanted to end it. He had pressure on his side too. We were in our 30s and it "looked right." We had geographic pressure to make a decision. Long distance. We made the wrong one. It was a miserable decade. Once you are married, then there is pressure to stay no matter the cost. It was hell. He wanted me to get married anyway despite my reluctance and my family was really pressuring me. It was not acceptable not to be married. I was 32. If you are raised super tradtionally, with strong non-American culture in your family, you have no idea what the pressure is like. [/quote]

YOU made the compromise, instead of blaming others, own your weakness. Unless it was a shotgun wedding, it was a choice. [/quote]

Yeah, I said it was the wrong one. I am not complaining. I should have listened to my gut. I did not. Anyway, I was responding some people understand that sometimes "I never loved him/her" is accurate. People marry for a lot of reasons. Could be love, could be expectations/social family pressure, could be desire to procreate, could be money. I married due to social expectations and family pressure--it was the same for my ex. That does not involve love. So, yes, it is possible to marry without love to answer people's questions.[/quote]

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