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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of very defensive daycare mothers on this thread.  Tiresome at best.  [/quote]

Huh. I read this exactly the opposite. Tons of defensive nanny moms and nannies themselves. I mean, why on earth would all these panicked posters post about how great nannies are in a thread that asks whether people don’t want nannies. And I have had a nanny for ten years, but I sure wouldn’t enter a thread asking people if they were meh about daycare and talk about how great daycare is. That is the hallmark of tiresome defensiveness. If people were actually happy with their nannies instead of just defensive, they wouldn’t bother posting in this thread. [/quote]

Yes, you’re said this several times already.  OP is hesitant about sharing her space with a nanny which is very different than not wanting or needing one.  In a forum dedicated to “childcare other than daycare”, I don’t even know why the daycare moms are here.

You can’t malign an entire profession without getting blowback.  Especially from those of us who love our nannies and love what they do for our children.  [/quote]

Actually, I’ve never said anything like what I wrote above in this thread. Maybe someone else did, because of course it is a logical and correct point. And I’m not a daycare mom (as I said, I have employed a nanny for ten years). I’m just not so hyper-defensive about nannies that I freak out at the idea that someone might not like having one. I have had a great nanny experience. But my friend who came home unexpectedly one day to find her nanny screaming at her cowering and terrified child, well, I’m not going to invalidate her experience. It is okay that my friend will never hire a nanny again. I support her in that, even as I value my own nanny experience. I guess you would invalidate a friend who went through the same thing, because obviously never hearing a bad word about nannies as a concept is more important to you than a suffering friend, but I won’t.

It is bizarre to me how much you feel compelled to lash out at women who don’t share your exact experience. Guess what, not everyone is going to like nannies. It does not take anything away from your childcare choices to have someone disagree on the best approach. Stop being so incredibly hyper defensive.[/quote]

What I find bizarre is that you are insistent and hyper defensive on daycare for your children that you lash out at all nannies.  We understand that you can’t afford a good nanny.  And that’s okay. [/quote]

Oh! You are slow! I’m sorry, I was making the assumption you had normal intelligence, but I see that was wrong. I’m sorry, I guess I was wrong to assume you could understand basic text on a page.

As I have now said multiple times (but I understand you probably need things repeated to understand them) I have employed a nanny for ten years. I do not use daycare (though I see nothing wrong with it). Here is new information (I am flagging this explicitly as new information since you have a hard time understanding): my nanny is with us full time, with full benefits including health care and retirement contributions.

Secondly, again understanding your capacity, so I will try to be clear here, pointing out that it is okay that not all families want a nanny is not lashing out at all nannies. Here is an example for you to help: some families choose to homeschool. That is not a reflection on all teachers. Some families will have had a bad experience with teachers, some just do not like the structure of schools at all. Very few of them view choosing to homeschool as lashing out at all teachers.

Here, we have an OP asking specifically about people who are not crazy about the idea of nannies. Some people don’t like people in their space. Some people had bad experiences. Some people prefer the structure of daycares to nannies. This is all okay. It doesn’t make you a bad mom for having a nanny. You can relax and stop with the insane-sounding hyper defensiveness.

That was probably too many words for you, though. [/quote]

Preach. Different people want different things. Imagine that![/quote]

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