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[quote=Anonymous]		I posted earlier, I was one of the ones who told you your therapist was nuts, and I am the poster that asked if you had the skill set to have  healthy relationship with children in the mix.  I’m posting again, I’m in the camp that isn’t convinced your boyfriend doesn’t have a family as in a wife in Raleigh. His schedule fits more with “gott go home and see the wife and kids” then work.

Think about it, he could be consistent before you became his girlfriend and now you have to put up with a “flexible” schedule?  Why? Work isn’t the answer, he’s just a line he is feeding you.

As for you, what happened to your happy hours and volunteering? It’s not March 2020 anymore, volunteer orgs love single people, a little too much because they need to count on their volunteers and you don’t have a local boyfriend or husband who says “There’s a play I’d love to see with you this weekend, tell the organization you won’t be there.. it is after all a volunteer position”. 
 It’s strange that every single one of your social outlets would just go away even with covid.

It’s also strange that you can’t manage your kids well, if two events at the same time is difficult for you, don’t schedule two events at the same time, i.e. “just say no” to two birthday parties happening at the same time.. which is also strange, how do you get two birthday parties at the same time but a total lack of your former happening adult social life?  Something isn’t adding up here and I can’t quite put my finger on it especially when you use an argument that people can’t refute.. “unless you’r ea single parent, you can’t understand”.  Why not?  It’s like you’re hiding something or knowingly engaging in bad behavior and then telling people they just don’t and can’t understand. 
Good luck, op, date others if you like, though I’d advise ending it with your boyfriend before you do. I also wonder why you’d not ever move to Raleigh or even consider it since you seem to love your boyfriend so much.  Raleigh is a nice city, nice climate, jobs, nice houses and as your boyfriend has demonstrated, close enough to D.C. to get back here for a random sporting event on Friday. Nothing saying he can’t have you and the kids hop in the car with him and head back here.. unless he doesn’t want to.  How does that work though, he has to be “flexible” with you, but he has enough stability to plan and buy sports tickets and allow for travel time?  Something is up here. 
   
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