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[quote=Anonymous]I've never thought this way but obviously a lot of people do.

When my brother got divorced I was really shocked by the news (they seemed truly happy and it had never crossed my mind they were even on the rocks) and told a good friend about it and said was having trouble processing the news. She immediately launched into this whole monologue about how of course hearing about a close family member getting divorced would make you think about getting divorced and wonder if you were next, that's normal but try not to think about it too much, just take it one day at a time.

I was like, "Uh, no, I mean I'm just sad for my brother and worry this means my SIL will no longer be part of my life." It didn't even occur to me that my brother's divorce had any bearing at all on my own marriage. They are different relationships involving different people. But to my friend, this was the obvious first thought. It felt very telling to me. Sure enough, a year later she and her DH were experimenting with an open marriage and discussing a trial separation if it didn't work.

I think divorce is only something you can "catch" if you were already thinking about it to begin with. If it's not on your radar, someone else's divorce is not suddenly going to push you over the edge.[/quote]

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