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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP, yet again.
Many of you think I should move on and/or find new friends. Others think I send too many texts and I should wait for the other person to make the next move. Someone actually called me a psycho ... wow and LOL.

Let me tell you something. DH and I live in a small town.[b] Semi-rural is the best way to describe it. We moved here from a big, vibrant, cosmopolitan city 16 years ago.[/b]
Some people say they feel lonely in a big city. I have to say that I found socializing far, far easier in the big city we lived in than here. We went out more, got together with friends more often, drinks with co-workers after work, etc. Social life was just easier.
Here, by contrast, trying to get together with someone for coffee or a meal is like pulling teeth.

The people I'm texting are mid/late 50s, early 60s so not elderly![/quote]

I grew up rural...people are different. I think you are trying to fit square pegs into round holes. You obviously miss the hustle and bustle of the big cosmopolitan town and these people like sitting home on Saturday nights and are happy there. They aren't being mean to you, they are just different. You can't force it. I think you miss the big city.[/quote]

There is some truth in this. I certainly miss some aspects of big city life.

Don't get me wrong. This small town is pretty, clean and safe. Small enough to walk to local amenities. Easy access to hiking trails, etc. Great place to raise a family. Low crime rates. Cheaper real estate.

When we lived in a big city socializing was much easier. I'd arrange to get together with friends without having to send texts back and forth over a period of 2 weeks! Going out for drinks with co-workers after work was decided within minutes, usually on the same day.

Here people's lives are more family dominated.  A lot of people here seem to have relatives who live nearby (or within a short driving distance). 
We don't. 
People here are very friendly but a lot of them are part of long established friendship groups way before we moved here.

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It’s almost as if they choose to spend their time and energy and with close friends rather than clingy new people.[/quote]

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