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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the ticking biological clock thing is so overstated.  I got accidentally pregnant from one time unprotected sex at 38.  And I know sooooooo many other women that have similar stories from their late 30s and 40s.  I only know two women who had fertiility issues—one had issues starting at age 25 because it turned out an ovulation problem she never knew about.  The other didn’t start trying until late 30s—so very well may have had the same issues if she had started earlier.

Also, I’ve done a lot of geneological research reviewing census records from the 19th and early 20th century.  A certain percentage of women were just infertile or had low birth rates regardless of the early marriages and lack of birth control.  For women that were gererallt fertile, if they didn’t die or have catastrophic gyn problems from chldbirth, they were generally having kids into their 40s. Elizabeth cady Stanton had her last at 44 (feminism not having dried up her ovaries). [/quote]

Basically every mother I know who gave birth after age 36 had complications; either with the pregnancy, delivery and/or the child is on the spectrum or has food allergies that could kill them. You folks live in delusional la la land if you think every woman can be on birth control for decades and booze through their 20s and early 30s, maybe even an abortion along the way, and then pop out healthy babies. Trust the science.[/quote]

Your anecdotal examples are not science. Here’s an anecdotal example: I’m a 40 something mom listening to my healthy toddler and preschooler playing in the next room. I am a regular DCUM poster, so if you don’t believe me, you can ask Jeff. All my friends had kids in their 30s, and I have several friends who either just gave birth or are currently pregnant in our 40s. Zero babies have health problems.

Now for some actual science, which shows an increase in risks but still relatively tiny percentages of abnormalities: https://evidencebasedbirth.com/advanced-maternal-age/

Oh, and yes, I most definitely boozed it up and lived very selfishly for a solid 15 years straight. Shacked up with my now husband in my 20s, we partied, traveled, focused on our careers and fitness, renovated our house, etc, and then I got pregnant in a hot second, within a month of deciding we were ready. Twice. And within months I was back in size 0 pre-pregnancy jeans. Life just isn’t fair, I guess - I guess in your mind I should have been punished for my life of debauchery. But nope.  :wink: [/quote]

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