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But he will never change because you ultimately came to the rescue. He should’ve face the consequences and embarrassment of picking up late.

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No doubt the aftercare will impose a hefty fine for late pickup. But even if he pays it, ultimately it is family money that was wasted.[/quote]

Yes but there is something about facing overworked daycare workers that would put a little bit of shame into him. It would cement in the necessity of either communicating with you about a change of pick up or becoming responsible and picking up himself.

There is something to be said about public embarrassment.

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True, natural consequences work well for neurotypical people.  And don’t work at all for the opposite.

Agree heartily. Though I’d feel like a complete ass asking them to stay a minute longer for him to get there. [/quote][/quote]

I hate responses like this. We’re not neurotypical and we still have to sort that stuff out. It’s great that you’re pointing out that it might not be an effective correction for many, but it doesn’t help. [/quote]

Hell yeah it helps.

If you know scolding and natural consequences don’t result in a learning moment for an ADHDer or neuroatypical don’t use your energy doing it. It would not only waste your emotional energy to do it, it would build up anxiety in the neuroatypical and they don’t handle that well either. More suffering for all.

He needs therapy.  He’s married with a wife, house, two jobs family, and kid now. the stakes are high. [/quote]

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