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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]According to my Indian colleague, it’s not all as good as it seems on surface, match making and arranged marriages has its own pros and cons. He says not even educated Indians in India wants to go through it.[/quote]

It’s not really arranged.

It’s like “here is a list of people that fit a certain criteria”. Who on this list do you vibe with.
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This is the modern form of arranged marriage. I don't know a single Indian person who would refer to what OP describes as anything other than an arranged marriage (and I'm Indian-American with almost all my cousins in India). There is still a lot of forced marriage in India, but for educated professionals the norm is to have the couple meet a few times before deciding. But the purpose of the meeting is to decide if they want to get married...not to date for an indefinite period of time without any specific obligation. I don't know what fraction of marriages are set up this way, but I know that my cousins in India are considered an aberration in that only one of them had an arranged marriage. Notably, that cousin had previously had a very long-term girlfriend, but his attitude about what he wanted out of his life changed when my uncle (his father) died relatively young and unexpectedly. Otherwise, it's unlikely that cousin would have had an arranged marriage either.[/quote]

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