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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am I the only one who thinks that open adoption is just a new way to pressure the birth parent into consenting to the adoption.
I am not sure if it helps her grieve her loss.
Sometimes it can be very hard for her if the adoptive parents divorce.
I am not convinced that open adoption is not marketed as co-parenting, which it is not
A little googling with find plenty of stories of heart broken birth moms[/quote]

No, you are not alone in your thinking. The rise of private "open" adoptions is extremely concerning, especially since there is very little regulatory oversight and it varies so much from state to state.

A little more googling will show that these "open" agreements are NOT legally enforceable. If the adoptive family chooses to cut out the birth mom/family and go no-contact, they have every legal right to do so.

It would not surprise me that in 20 or 30 years, we will see a flood of problems from these open adoptions which have gone sour.  As you've pointed out, what happens if the adoptive parents divorce? And then remarry? And have biological children with new spouses? That's just one complication out of many.  Likewise, what happens when the young birth mother gets older, more settled and is actively watching others raise her child when all she really needed was some help for a few years to get to a more mature age and financial security, and she could have kept her child.

I get that open works for some families and everything is wonderful (now) but who know what lies in anyone's future...[/quote]

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