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[quote=Anonymous]I’m late, but I think instead of labelling moms who aren’t tuned in to your needs as a mismatch of needs rather than jumping to labelling them as narcissistic.

Mother and daughter relationships are COMPLEX due to a myriad of reasons including an expectation that our needs are just known and that mothers are just supposed to know. Couple this with the inability we have to name and voice our emotional needs.

Also add in the reality that we likely inherited the very genes and traits that annoy us the worst.

My mom and I have a really tough relationship that requires me to be the “mature” one which is hard b/c even at 43 I yearn for a parent. But the reality is she had a complicated relationship with her mother and had other tragedies in her life. Her support structure is religion which provides community but also a rigidity. Whereas I’ve sought therapy and other paths and trying to truly break some of the patterns that I see in my family.

I also have a daughter, who am trying to help her learn to identify her needs and be confident enough communicate them to me, to her future partners, etc. 
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