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[quote=Anonymous]Here is what I had to remind myself. We all know we are going to get old. By middle age many of us have seen many permutations of what aging can look like from grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends' loved ones and we've heard the stories. Then we deal with our own parents. We can choose to bury our heads in the sand and we could end up in dire straits because of it. Or we can plan for ourselves and move to appropriate places in say our 60s. My own parents were conveniently too "busy" to visit their own parents much and all those they had buckets of money they refused to engage in conversations about planning beyond demanding they stay in their own home. They refused to explore what that really looks like. Everyone in their lives went into assisted living/memory care/nursing. You could not explain to them friends will move away, hired help won't always show and we may have to hire a stranger to live with them when they are no longer capable at all. Those conversations ended with screaming fits. Then life happens and there they are with a caregiver they abuse verbally who quits, family setting boundaries, a social worker they yell at and friends have stopped returning their calls. They had decades of retirement to explore things, but were too busy traveling, guilt tripping their kids and shopping to care.[/quote]

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