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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Jeez, DCUM is a fickle beast.  If OP had posted asking if she needed to go to her MIL's funeral, people would be screeching, NO, don't go, she's just your MIL.

Instead [i]here is a family that is completely unrelated to OP's mother, that got themselves all to the funeral[/i].  They didn't come kicking and screaming.  [i]They came to stand up for OP and to support her and OP's husband[/i].  They didn't need to be there and NO ONE, well, no normal person, would have faulted them for not being there because, again, none of them are related to OP's mom.  Then you consider that there were enough of them together that they took a picture.  Not in the middle of the funeral and with enough discretion that OP didn't even know it was happening.

This family deserves huge props for showing up.  They didn't have to be there but they were.  They don't deserve OP acting like a spoiled brat.  If anyone has an apology to make it is OP for making a fuss about it.  I get that she is grieving but that doesn't excuse OP.[/quote]

Both points of view can be true. It was wonderful that the IL family came to the funeral. It was terrible to hand out a giant framed family picture in front of OP on her first Christmas without her mon.[/quote]

DP.  I agree with the first PP.  I can appreciate OP having a poignant moment about it and feel the loss of her mom.  But, I'm sure it's not the only poignant moment she experienced and she is inappropriately latching onto this picture. She, instead, should focus on how nice it was that her ILs showed such support. [/quote]

I’m so stuck on this. My whole family came to the funeral of DH’s dad. I truly cannot imagine presenting my family with a framed, enlarged picture of just us at FIL’s remembrance **in front of DH or his sisters, as we’ve all spent time together** like 3 months later, or ever. It’s such a clear call to me. I’d never conceive of doing it, and it seems a rather extreme act to me. Of course life has gone on and we’ve remembered him often and fondly and still — never.  [/quote]

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